Friday, December 4, 2020

Seeing Hope and Touch Not the Cat

 

The Touch Not the Cat blog has become a place to share my journey and reflections on life and relationships.

Anywhere and somewhere

 

One attitude that has provided beneficial to me over the past few decades is to expect that meditation on Scripture will inform me about the events of today. As I considered the Roman Catholic liturgical texts for Dec 4, Friday of the First Week of Advent, I found resonance with our hope for the future and my desire to decrease the tribalism in our social and political engagement in this time of tension around great change in the way we live with a global pandemic, a climate crisis, and the inequality rooted in privilege in our society. The hope in the vision of Isaiah (circa 700 BCE) “For the tyrant shall be no more, the scoffer shall cease to be” (Isaiah 29:20) and “Those who err in spirit shall acquire understanding, those who find fault shall receive instruction.” (Isaiah 29:24) prompts me to consider how we might reduce the impact of the scoffer in our discussions and be open to receive instruction that will reduce our tendency to be fault finding in our social encounters. As I ponder how to reduce the action of scoffers and fault finders, I tend to seek understanding of the social and economic playing field. An article by Aaron Wherry of CBC News has the title “Where you live is who you are: Erin O'Toole and the new culture war” He observes that as political arguments go, it has its limits. Wherry asks “Will it work?” 


Readers of Stephen Harper's book Right Here, Right Now, published in 2018, will be familiar with O'Toole's framing. The former prime minister was quite taken with the idea that many Western democracies can be divided between rooted "Somewheres" and relatively rootless "Anywheres". But the theory originated with David Goodhart, a British writer whose own book, The Road to Somewhere, linked the Brexit vote to leave the European Union — and other populist revolts, including the election of Donald Trump — to divisions over culture and identity. In short, Goodhart posits that the traditional politics of left and right, liberal and conservative, are now overlaid by a "larger and looser" distinction "between the people who see the world from Anywhere and the people who see it from Somewhere." O'Toole has lamented that wages have stagnated, private sector union membership has dropped and many Canadians no longer have robust pensions or benefits. What would he do to address those things? O'Toole's Conservatives like to say that Canada has become more divided since Justin Trudeau became prime minister, an argument that rests heavily on the idea of "Western alienation." But would O'Toole's approach produce less division — or would it simply anger a different set of people? Should those whose opinions are more in line with the Anywheres worry that their priorities would be neglected or attacked under an O'Toole government? Division and frustration can be used to drive political campaigns, but it's not obvious that they make it any easier to govern. Durable, lasting change typically requires broad support.1

Discussion of our response to the changes we see in our society needs to affirm the positive values of people on all sides of the debate.

 

References

1(2020, December 4). Where you live is who you are: Erin O'Toole and the new .... Retrieved December 4, 2020, from https://www.cbc.ca/news/politics/erin-otoole-culture-war-pandemic-statues-immigration-1.5826976

Monday, October 12, 2020

A Thanksgiving for Parents

 

After spending some time with my family, this weekend, in the backyard of my son and daughter-in-law, I have reflected on my thankfulness for the gift of being parents that my sons, daughter, and niece and their spouses are living.
Most of the family mentioned below
(Chris, Crystal, Gary, Deb, Gabe, are absent from picture)

 

My experience is that the key to excellent encounters with parents is to focus on their children. We have much to be thankful for and I will review the past year through my interaction with the children. My thanksgiving for Fall 2019 is highlighted by my being with Reid when we would hang out after “pre-school” and seeing his parents Pat and Nea through his eyes.
Reid and Fall Frisbee

 

The past winter offered drives to medical appointments with Lilly and Miles and appreciating their maturing as older teens. Their parents, Chris and Crystal were very generous with helping Farris and I in my weeks of cancer treatment and the Covid-19 days of the winter.

 

Summer 2020 Lilly and Miles

My gratitude for Farris loving care in treatment, surgery, and recovery is immeasurable. Our sharing experiences of the children and teens in the family helped fill the hours and warm the days.
Papa and Sity walk with Locklin

 

In the spring, visits with Locklin brought much joy and thankfulness, especially for the generosity of his parents, George and Katie in their attention to Farris and I.
Locklin Fall 2020

 

As Summer dawned, connection with Kim and Tyler was enhanced by talking about how Gabe was navigating early teens amid all our isolation.
Kim, Tyler, and Gabe Spring 2017

 

I am very thankful for how the parents of Gabe and Reid were able to rally on very short notice to set up a great bed for my recovery after an early release from hospital after my surgery.
The excellent bed

 

I will always be thankful for the wonderful people, health professionals and patients, who I encountered in my journey through diagnosis, treatment, surgery, and recovery this year.

 

People and Health Professionals care here

Talking about children and grandchildren always brought so many smiles in those days. As Fall 2020 continues I am thankful that Joelle, and her parents Ashley and Ryan

Ashley, Joelle, and Ryan 

have drawn my brother Gary and his spouse Deb to live in Nova Scotia after their decades together in Western Canada and northwestern US.

 

Pauline, Gary, and Deb

As “grandparents” we are always thankful for this stage of our lives where our love of our grandchildren opens so many opportunities to celebrate thanksgiving in all the seasons of life.

Monday, August 3, 2020

Six weeks later

Aug 3 marks six weeks post op for me. This is the length of time that the discharge instructions advise to avoid strenuous activity.
Summer in Public Gardens

I enjoyed a walk in the Halifax Public Gardens yesterday. I am not quite ready to lift weights or paddle my kayak but my strength is returning and I feel very well. Farris and I have been able to visit with the family including some very satisfying time with our young grandsons Reid (5 yrs), and Locklin (20 months).
Reid and Locklin

As I shared in my last update, the pathology report after the surgery was very good. There was no cancer found in the tissues examined. A CT Scan will be scheduled for me in December to have another look for cancer cells. I am thankful for all the excellent work and care from the health care professionals on my case since December 2019. I send special thanks to all the people who supported me in their thoughts and prayers. I now hope to enjoy some summer activity with friends and family while remaining observant of Covid-19 precautions.

Monday, July 13, 2020

Family Doctor inputs and takeaways

I have found that following the rules during this journey is a very good policy.
Twenty One days post-op

The Discharge Summary that we received on June 30 contained instructions for care of wounds, antibiotic cycle completion, and “visit” with my family doctor. “Nurse Farris” has managed the list and made sure we observed all the rules. The family doctor “visit” was conducted by phone. Our family doctor echoed the expression from the surgeon that things had gone very well. He read the “pathology report” to us. It indicated that cancer cells were not found in the tissues, other than the tumour, taken during surgery for biopsy. This is a very welcome report. I have some sutures to be removed in the next few days. My family doctor will come to our home to remove them. He decided that this was the best procedure while we are still self isolating in the Covid 19 times. Everyday I am getting stronger and feeling more like myself. I am thankful to God and the support of family and friends as I went from pre-op to post-op. The last item on the Discharge Summary is a “phone visit” from the surgeon scheduled for the 21st of July.

Wednesday, July 1, 2020

Thoracic Surgery Journey



Thoracic Surgery

In the week of June 15 - June 20, we received a surgery date of June 22.
Thoracic Surgery Journey

The Covid precautions meant I had to prepare for a possible 10 days when I could not have hospital visitors. I was sad about this as I sat in a pre-op waiting room. (The Health Authority allowed Farris to have a one hour visit every day beginning on June 23. Whew!!) I am pretty sure that I “went under” around 8:00 am and Farris received a call from the surgeon around 4:00 pm. I went from the operating room to the IMCU (Intensive Monitoring Care Unit). Skipping the stop in the ICU, is an indication that that surgery was performed without complications.. This indication was confirmed by the health professionals who cared for me post op. I tried very hard to follow the procedures around pain management, lung rehabilitation, walking, and diet. On June 30, I was discharged and I continue to follow the appropriate procedures under the guidance of “Nurse Farris”. A follow-up with the surgeon will be scheduled in 4-6 weeks.

Strength in adversity

This part of my journey has strengthened my belief in the kindness of people. I have been meditating on the power of empathy to build up caring relationships among people. We cannot entirely walk in the shoes of the other, but the common experience of fighting a serious disease through disabling surgery is uniquely strengthening my physical, psychological, and spiritual well being.

What’s ahead?

One member of the surgical team was explaining that recovery is a process and he assured Farris and I that by Christmas I would be able to enjoy the traditional fare. Until then, “Dietician Farris” is developing more skills in preparing liquid and soft foods.


The empathy and comradery of those sharing my journey and the kindness and excellent medical care of the professionals is a major "take a away" of this 8 day experience.

Thank you for your prayers and support that I felt as the positive energy to celebrate the efforts of all concerned with gratitude and affirmation that people care.

Tuesday, June 16, 2020

MRI and more

On Monday June 15, I had a MRI scan at the VG Hospital.
Summer on the way

Today, the surgeon phoned to tell me that the MRI shows a healthy liver. He thought surgery hopefully could be scheduled in a couple of weeks. The surgery will involve removal of a section of the esophagus and extension of the stomach to replace the removed section. This procedure takes about 6 hours and requires a 10 day hospitalization. The alternative would be to treat the tumour with radiation and chemotherapy and hope the cancer would not metastasize. My preference is to have the surgery. Thank you for your continued prayers and support. I will update this information when I have a date for the surgery.

Tuesday, June 2, 2020

More analysis by radiology

A scheduled “phone visit” with the thoracic surgeon happened today.
Smooth sailing

The additional CAT Scan (CT Scan) that I had on May 22 did not provide sufficient information about the possible spot in the liver. The earlier PET scan showed reduced “lit up” area around the tumor in the esophagus and the surgeon assured me today the effects of the radiation treatment will continue to shrink the tumor for several more weeks. The surgeon and radiologist will review the scans this week. They may seek more information from an MRI, if that is a reasonable strategy. If they decide there is not a problem in the liver, surgery on the esophagus could be scheduled in June. I am confident that the medical professionals are working to achieve the best outcome and I await further news this week. Thanks to family and friends for continued support.